Well, I'm off for a week...

[wolfwings]

...I believe gooberriffic already knows this, as does talesin but I don't think love_hate_rape knows I was gonna poof for this week. I'll be back on Tuesday the 9th, until then I'm off across the country enjoying the week off of sorts, relaxing and what-not some. :-)

Anyways... *sighs* Talked to Steph the other night. Glad she and Sean had a chance to talk things out and that he said sorry. He damn well better have, but it's still only words, words only go so far in soothing something as physically wrong as what happened, something that, for better or worse, Nyssa's taught me quite well.

Still... speaking of Nyssa... ick, I hope that's not why Ryan hasn't called, but it sounds like an awfully good reason, sadly. I really hope that's not the real reason though... *sighs* And I really, truly, awfully wish men would FUCKING GET OVER IT AND PUT ON A GOD DAMN MOTHERFUCKING CONDOM! There's no excuse anymore, folks, saying they don't fit is bullshit, saying you don't like them just means you're a prick, an asshole that wants to knock someone up, regardless of what it will do to them, regardless of what STD you might have... I'm sorry, it's just being a prick, and that's my honest opinion, I don't put plug A and slot B together, let alone plug A and slot A, without a nice tough layer of latex between them. I'm in no rush to cause a big little of puppies to have to take care of, thank you very much. But, at the same time, if I ever did, Goddess, there goes my life, I get to raise a god-damn family now. Don't matter if I want to, I made the mess, I get to fucking deal with it.

*sighs* Sorry, I cut loose there, dunno why. I'm gonna go poof for a while now, if folks want to get a hold of me, e-mail is best, I didn't bring my cell phone as it might end up needed for work-type stuff while I'm gone. So, e-mail, and I can still call a little if needed by anyone. *massive hugs to everyone*

Comments

[gooberriffic.livejournal.com]

Have fun, Wolf. Thanks for caring.

[dour.livejournal.com]

...not to be contrary, but there are other methods of "safe sex" which are equally effective. The goal is to not get/spread diseases, and not cause pregnancies. How said goal is achieved is up to the parties involved.

On the road again..

[lionman.livejournal.com]

*LionHUG*

Check in when you can. I hope you have a good time, puppy.

True enough, hon, but the basic idea is still the same...

[wolfwings.livejournal.com]

...and someone saying they just 'don't like' birth control stuff is still kinda prick-ish and self-centered. :-)

STD transmission prevention...

[aerowolf.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately, condoms (either male or female) are still the only means of preventing STDs -- especially ones like herpes, that don't require semen, and HIV, which is not killed by nonoxynol-9. Prevention of actual skin contact is best.

Re: STD transmission prevention...

[dour.livejournal.com]

Not true! You can also prevent the spread of STDs by not having sex with people who don't match your +/- status. As I'm negative across the board, this is my preferred method. ;>

Re: True enough, hon, but the basic idea is still the same...

[dour.livejournal.com]

Birth control is the responsibility of both parties, though. I've never understood why the man always gets blamed, when the woman knows perfectly well what she could be getting into if precautions aren't taken. If her choice of precautions is "the man wears a condom," then it is up to the man whether or not to sleep with her in the first place. To my mind, it's equally self-centered in most cases for her to refuse to use any sort of chemical birth control; it winds up being a matter of who minds their gender's methods less.

See below about STDs, tho; Aero's right, if they're a part of the equation then condoms are the only way to go.

Re: STD transmission prevention...

[aerowolf.livejournal.com]

...and you expect them to _know_? What happens if they've had sex with someone who's HIV+ (or herpes+, or chlamydia+, or syphilis+, or hepatitis+, or whatever) in the past few days, who didn't know THEY were positive?

You're running a huge risk there. It takes 11 days for the HIV virus to be detectable in the bloodstream with the most advanced tests we have -- 6 months to a FULL YEAR for the antibodies to show up, for the classical tests.

Chlamydia is a bacteria, not a virus. It usually shows up in the next couple of days as an itching is both males and females... but not always detectably.

Syphilis is also a bacteria, but it shows up 4 to 8 weeks later.

Hepatitis is a virus. A, B, C, D, and E -- all different strains. You can only be inoculated against A and B (though D and E usually require B to be present before they can gain a foothold). Hep C is -nasty-. Can take over a year to recover from.

Herpes -- either type B or C can be infested in either the genital region or the mouth. Both are extremely virulent. And neither one has to be visible to be infectuous.

It sucks -- but there's no way around it. Do you -really- trust your partners enough to tell you when they've got something that they don't want you to know about? (If you're monogamous, or bigamous and your partners are bigamous within the circle, absolutely wonderful. But be sure you know what you're getting into.)

Just a friendly warning. As always, your life is your own to live. (I don't have to do anything with you, or anyone you've done. ;>)

Re: STD transmission prevention...

[dour.livejournal.com]

Please don't assume that I'm ignorant just because I'm not paranoid.

The simple fact is, the people I have sex with don't have sex as often or with as many different people as the people you have sex with. Yes, I do expect them to know. I really do trust my partners that much, because if I didn't trust them, they wouldn't be my partners. Period.

Re: On the road again..

[love-hate-rape.livejournal.com]

The sad thing about this all is, that I know what book exactly you got your LJ icon from, and I have it floating around my room somewhere. *sigh*

Re: STD transmission prevention...

[shunyata.livejournal.com]

This is all a very personal choice. As a girl I know I have a right to demand condoms are used with me, and I usually do. However, I also have known guys who simply can't get off, or even keep it up, when wearing a condom. I've also been in relationships where I could trust the person enough that condoms were not needed.

I once had a lover who used condoms every time. It wasn't until after we had been together for some time that he admitted to me that he had Herpes. He only admitted it because he had a breakout. Luckily I was not affected, but this shows you cannot always trust someone who is otherwise trustworthy and a good person.

Point is this; there is no one answer that suits every situation. Paranoia may well save your life, but the cost may be losing a possible lover. The choice is between you and your partner.

How much do visectomies cost?

[(Anonymous)]

Similarly, a tube-tyation?