Ertakar Adoption

Feb. 12th, 2026 02:58 pm
armaina: (talon erta serene)
[personal profile] armaina
So there's this worldbuilding prompt thing on Bluesky now and it posed this question
https://bsky.app/profile/oc-world-asks.myatproto.social/post/3meniu5sckk2t

Is adoption a concept in your constructed world's civilization(s)? Is it a legal process? Is it stigmatized? Do the peoples in your civilization(s) see child rearing as a community project, or more private? Does trans-lineage adoption exist? How about trans-species adoption?

I made a small response on the platform but I hate truncating my speech and making annoying long threads so I am going to address this question with the depth id deserves, here.

First, I think we need to address the issue of what causes a child to require being adopted in the first place. At its most vague it is because the child is abandoned either voluntarily or involuntarily. From there we have to interrogate those factors.

What would cause a child to be abandoned voluntarily?

  • The child is unwanted, for reasons that can include:
    • The pregnancy itself was unwanted and could not be prevented before birth.
    • The child is behavioraly difficult to care for.
    • The existence of the child causes social conflict.
  • The family unable to care for the child.
    • Housing is insufficient for another child.
    • They are unable to keep the whole family fed
    • Health is too expensive to keep up with

What would cause a child to be abandoned involuntarily?

  • The parents are either dead or missing.
  • The parents were deemed unfit and the child was removed.


I went through all the effort to itemize these caveats because as I start to explain the specifics of Ertakar social structure and world view, you'll have a better understanding of what I mean when I say, abandoned children are extremely uncommon in Ertakar society.

First is the matter of pregnancy itself. Contraceptives and other birth control is something that is freely available, easy to access, and socially accepted as normal and important. This means the chances of there being 'unwanted' children by way of undesired pregnancy is exceedingly rare. Related to this, medical assistance is very easy to access and not monetized. This means any complications with the pregnancy, disability, health, and so on are taken care of as needed without one's income status being a factor at all.

After that, is housing. Territories exist, so there is 'ownership' in that, but the idea that individuals monetarily own land is absurd to them across all cultures. Because of this social perception, the very concept of providing some currency or exchange just to live in a place is absurd. Pay for the labor of the home to live in, sure, but to remain there? Of course not. This means the fear of loosing housing is nonexistent, if you have a home, its yours. And especially in the case of the capital my story will take place in, housing is open and divvied out to anyone that asks. You put in requests for what you need and move as much or as little as you need. This is important for matters of disability, where residents are provided the home that meets their needs, so any family with a child that has certain disabilities they can be provided housing that accommodates them and thus ease the strain on the family as a whole. Other communities of Ertakar are of similar minds to provide as a community even if they do it in different ways with different expectations.

Finally, is food. Ertkar are active hunters and facultative carnivores. This means their diet even in their 'modern' day consists of prey they hunt themselves. This means there is no 'food industry' which mean food isn't something you pay for so the factor of hunger is only caused by environmental factors, not artificially constructed ones. If you can hunt you can eat, and if you can't hunt there is community there to help you hunt or do it for you.

All these factors make the effort of childrearing far less stressful, which gives families more means to address any interpersonal and behavioral conflict with the care and attention it deserves and gives a lower stress threshold to start with to be able to handle that. There can still be abandonment for behavioral reasons but this is very uncommon.

And then there's the structure of child-rearing in Ertakar societies.

The concept of the family is very flexible in most Ertakar. While it varies between societies, on the whole Ertakar aren't strict about things like marital status and structure. With the long life they live, it is considered common to have an average of three long-term partners. Parting ways because one wanted to raise the child and the other didn't isn't uncommon, though communication is often still kept with old partner. Even more than that, some Ertakar societies participate in communal child-rearing. In these communities, if a child's family is indisposed they would be taken in by one of the families already participating in their rearing, so there would be no need for formal adoption as they already had familial connections with others even if not related by blood.

Now after ALL of that, what happens in the case of a child that has no one in a non-communal rearing environment? In many cases, adoption is pretty informal. Probably the most 'documented' of the cultures is the capital the story takes place in. In which case, adoption would be a series of special community handlers investigating the reasons for said abandonment (since it's already so rare) followed by some paperwork for the purposes of tracking the child's residence. Probably also some work to see if any new housing would need to be arranged for those taking in the child. Because of the communal nature of the society, it is extremely uncommon that a child is taken in by complete strangers.

So all this to say that for Ertakar, adoption isn't stigmatized, the legal process is loose if nonexistent in some cases and most of the society sees community as important to the raising of children but the extent of the involvement differs.

And then.

There's the humans.

So I'm operating on the 'current day' of the society, where the comic will take place in. Humans have been on the planet for about a century by now, and some culture has shifted to the Ertakar way of life, but some of them still cling to ideals they brought with them from Earth, such as value placed on monetary wealth which still causes some friction with the Ertakar and of course, each other.

They receive many of the same benefits of the Ertakar: Free housing and free medical care. This does eliminate some of the conditions that might cause one to abandon a child, however it does not eliminate social pressure.

The social pressure to have a child at all is something many Humans struggle with. (Such as the pressure to 'repopulate' on the planet but that's its own can of worms.) And because of the carried over desire for capital, there is still a few smatterings of financial instability to struggle with. So while he child abandonment rate for Humans is higher than that of the Ertakar, it's still not something that requires an institution like an Orphanage to handle.

Also, child abandonment for humans is more loaded than for Ertakar. With the population as small as it is, it's almost impossible to do without the whole community knowing. Despite not being on earth they still want to handle much of it like they would have on Earth in hopes of reaching contact with their home and being able to smooth everything out legally. However, if an Ertakar took the human child in? That can be major social conflict depending on the company kept.

These are all important factors that relate to why it was so difficult for Talon's mother, Tlakanok, to adopt a child. Her home where she came from raised communally, but she was deemed more important to work as a guard and was not permitted to be part of the child rearing group. She left for the capital where she heard the growing population of Humans had some issues with tending to children and she was happy to help there, but then war broke out.


it's an honest month

Feb. 12th, 2026 12:01 pm
not_fun: by seb (cial ponder think how why where who)
[personal profile] not_fun
hey folk, told myself i'd do an update so here i am.

bad news first - the situation with my dad is that he's been diagnosed with colon cancer. we don't know the stage yet, but he's got surgery on the 18th and chemotherapy will follow once he's healed. this isn't something i ever wanted my father to experience, it isn't something i want anyone to experience except maybe the true worst of the worst on earth. he's frightened and anxious, the future is uncertain and scary, and there is nothing to be done except for me to tell him i trod this path before and survived and so i will keep encouraging him to do the same. but he's also 29 years my senior and i'm not exactly youthful anymore myself. so it's a lot, it's weighing on me significantly.

less downer news:
ive uploaded my ANE photos to both a kofi gallery and furtrack.

i'm finally cured of what i had for the last several months and whatever it weakened me to allowing in. can't tell what microorganism tried to take me out, but tested neg for: covid, strept throat, MRSA and mono. but you can get a sense of symptoms from those suspects.

for the first time in MANY years, i was able to participate in Hourly Comics Day on feb 8th. compiled those into a pdf for anyone who missed them coming out live.

i also tore apart and reconstructed my art studio room, which took about five hours and destroyed my back. i really want to build myself a wall-attached desk, but that's not likely to happen in the middle of winter. i like to use the deck out back to cut wood and it's currently under about three feet of packed snow. little hard to set up sawhorses.

i did repair my magnetic inclining drawing table, which after about ten years keeps losing bolts and screws. well everything is nice and stable once more. if only i could get the cats to stop insisting i put a bed there, i could uh. work on it again lmfao

i also keep eyeing organizers on aliexpress, since i bought and built one and its replaced two mugs full of pens. but i dont have the money to sink into that right now. unless...?

the sticker club mail for feb has officially gone out, and the print club will be not far behind. i just need to pick up some more valentines first. of course i'm sending everyone a valentine too, what's the point of having addresses if i dont use them for good??

it looks like patreon has FINALLY unblocked postybirb, meaning maybe 2026 will be the year i dust it off and try to make it work for me again. it's fallen so, so far from what it once was and that's entirely from greed in the higher ups. they wanted to be pro llm very early and very early everyone on the platform very loudly was like NO FUCKING WAY. their interface for the back end is as ever slow and buggy. but at least it lets me post to it without having to go out of my way to use their website (or god forbid their app) now.

i watched the new silent hill movie return to silent hill and lemme tell ya, it's terrible. i mean it's just bad on its own as a stand alone horror film, a very weak and poor cgi infused linear jacob's ladder (which if you know silent hill, jacob's ladder was an original inspo anyway, so we're full circle now) but when you place RtSH next to SH2, the game it's trying to create a film version of, it gets even worse lmfao. it's hard to explain to folks who havent played the game, but the protag is a very unreliable narrator who has no sense of his own responsibility and let selfishness lead him to horror. RtSH takes this same protag and very loudly says "HE NEVER DID ANYTHING WRONG, EVER" which cracks me up because its like who wrote this??? did the protag himself write this??? a movie about james sunderland by james sunderland??

if you DO know the game meta, you might be wondering exactly how the FUCK they did that. well it's really easy. just throw mary under the bus. voila. YEP THEY DID THAT.

all this was driving me delightedly up a wall in that 'cant look away from this trainwreck' way, and THEN i got my hands on a version that WASNT a camrip. and o h my god, yall. oh my god. it was somehow worse when i could see everything clearly. the cgi was worse. the monster makeup was worse. james has a beard that looks like it came straight from spirit halloween for a scene that desperately tries to evoke drama and ethos but just comes off laughable. but most of all, most stunningly of all.... the fog is poorly rendered.

THE FOG IS POORLY RENDERED.
THEY HAD THAT SHIT FIGURED OUT IN PLAYSTATION ONE lmfao and this movie BUNGLES it. the cgi fog stutters and loops its animations, and just looks utterly awful. now if you're maybe focusing your attention exclusively on the cast you might not notice, but when there's numerous panning shots of (cgi) foggy forests and (cgi) foggy streets, with a tiny figure in the center frame, you're GOING to notice it. also james is cast with an incredibly wooden actor and he never puts his hand down a toilet.

lots of peering through cracks tho. i fucking felt like pyramus and thisbe were gonna come out and the wall was about to explain its character to me.

... i've also been watching the 1990s uncut version of hamlet a lot. listen,

so now we reach the downer sandwich part of this again, where i tell you sad things and give you an option to make a difference in them. mostly.

first of all, streamer Crescentfox has passed away very suddenly from brain cancer. his family is raising money for final expenses. they are almost at their goal and any help is appreciated.

secondly, cecil & ryan are struggling as ryan was laid off in the latest AI rush in tech. they and their family of 4 are not sure where their next meal (or pets meals) are coming from. if you can support them, their various cash reception handles are:
$rdewalt / pp&venmo @ ryan-dewalt-2 / ko-fi.com/1024x768

and the zeyada family in gaza are still living in a war zone where "ceasefire" means "bombs still fall" because israel is just as monsterous as the USA.
https://www.gofundme.com/f/wnq38-help-bilal-and-his-family?lang=en_US&ts=1757528828

and if youre in the united states please contact your senator and urge them to reject the SAVE act, which is a blatent voter suppression act which will disenfrance specifically women voters (or anyone who changed their name) and require you to bring a birth certificate and/or passport any time you want to cast a ballot. fucking jim crow laws all over again!!! so yeah, get in their ears about rejecting that: https://www.senate.gov/senators/senators-contact.htm

oh yeah and if you buy domains? stop using namecheap, they're complicit in hiding the genocide of gaza and palestine. i personally use joker these days for handling my domain name registration and renewalls.

and,,, i'm also struggling. but i find it harder and harder to openly ask for any help at all when things grow dire for people around me. but i was sick for about three weeks, and lost out on a not insignificant sum of cash from livestreaming as a result. so... any help is good help.
paypal or cash app or ko-fi or venmo all work. recurring pledges are best done via comradery, kofi and (last and least) patreon.


and as a final note - i'm aware that discord is trying to roll out AI skimming of all chats to moderate as well as facial recognition for age verification. i've never been that big of a fan of discord to begin with since it had no support for rotating your phone to type, but as folks exist in the discord chat and would like to keep it together, i'm researching other platforms to move it too. i am NOT moving it to telegram (nazi adjacent) or matrix (impossible to start/maintain). stoat.chat looks promising but appears to have shut registration for now (at least for gmail and non-standard emails) and there's also programs folks haev suggested like snikket, Fluxer and movim (tho movim isnt launched yet). i'm sure there's also no shortage of unknown chat apps rushing to launch right now as well, but that's not a terrible list to start with. and there is still steam, and if it becomes really necessary IRC is always an option. just give it a lil time to see where everyone settles. the corporations like to make you forget there are other options. they like to make you put all your eggs in one basket. fuck em, go out and find other apps. that's always been the way of the web. an app or forum or chat takes a shit and you all get your friends and move to the next one.

okay thats probably more than enough writing for now. later

oh yeah. ps. i turned 44 on january 28th. old man far outstrips the lifespan he expected to have, film at 11.

What's Going On With Discord

Feb. 10th, 2026 06:34 pm
armaina: (grace unamused)
[personal profile] armaina
By now, some of you may have heard about the Age Verification changes on Discord. And some of you likely may not have actually read everything about it and have only read the ranted summaries of others. I'm gonna compile this into one place so you can't look away.

First, here is the announcement: https://discord.com/press-releases/discord-launches-teen-by-default-settings-globally

Before I really get into things, I would like to highlight this passage because it'll be important later.
Additionally, Discord will implement its age inference model, a new system that runs in the background to help determine whether an account belongs to an adult, without always requiring users to verify their age. Some users may be asked to use multiple methods if more information is needed to assign an age group.
Naturally! This sucks! But, if you've actually bothered paying attention to what's been going on around you, you would know this outcome with Discord would have been inevitable.

This has been a looming spectre since 2017, back when the Digital Economy Act was passed in the UK. (something they were in the talks about back in 2015.)
https://www.gov.uk/government/news/curbing-access-to-pornographic-websites-for-under-18s
https://wiki.openrightsgroup.org/wiki/Online_age_verification

The UK was the first country to implement such an act and it is the event that caused other governments to weigh the possibility of doing the same. It is imperative that you do not forget this in all future conversation and conflicts with age verification. But getting anyone to pay attention to this (that wasn't the already ever-vigilant community of controversial fiction creators) was like pulling teeth. And then we had the global shutdowns and people were hooked into the Internet more than usual which was great for ignoring the fact that the compliance date for the Digital Economy Act 2017 was quickly approaching. And then other places started to dig into the possibility of gathering personal information for themselves, with depressingly little push-back.

When Australia started testing the waters with it's social media restriction, it was met with a 77% approval!!!

And then there's the numerous states that have implemented varying awful and dangerous age verification laws and they keep cropping up faster than I can keep up with.

Did you know that this Jan the UK is also working on an under-16 year old social media ban like Australia?
https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2026/jan/19/uk-ministers-launch-consultation-into-whether-to-ban-social-media-for-under-16s

Newgrounds managed to figure out a way to satisfy some of the age verification requirements by using the old credit card checks as well as account age specifics. They managed to satisfy the UK this way.

https://www.newgrounds.com/bbs/topic/1549829/1
It is very likely that Discord's ability to use an age inference model now, but not back when the compliance date loomed last year, was because Newgrounds was able to do this. So, bless you Newgrounds, thank you.


And then there's all the stuff that isn't implemented yet but will be soon

Did you know the EU has been working on digital identity wallets?
https://digital-strategy.ec.europa.eu/en/policies/eu-age-verification
Did you that this is happening in Mexico, too?
https://www.reddit.com/r/mexico/comments/1ns29nu/nos_est%C3%A1n_quitando_la_transparencia_y_obligando_a/?tl=en
https://idtechwire.com/mexico-approves-national-biometric-id-system-after-two-year-development/

This isn't going away, it's only getting worse and every major social media service knows this.

This is an issue that is bigger than Discord. They make a lot of money, sure, but not enough to survive with the fines placed on them by the UK, Australia, and the scattered US states by just not complying. Never mind loose their bank, you know, the thing processing their transactions, or their ability to operate as a business at all. This isn't something you can survive by just 'not bending the knee'.

I have been warning people about this for years and I was continually shut down.

Don't believe me? Maybe some insight from someone that has more personal experience with the issue regarding the quickly growing age verification issue:
https://bsky.app/profile/rahaeli.bsky.social/post/3meiroz6nk22w

Transcribed for convenience. )

Now, I'm sure by now you've been around the conversation, you may have seen some people say 'Keep cancelling, Discord is walking this back!' lying to themselves thinking their cancelling their nitro will change this. I'll link the post in question:
https://www.reddit.com/r/discordapp/comments/1r05vkj/discord_will_require_a_face_scan_or_id_for_full/


Transcribed for Convenience )
Here's the thing though, if you actually READ the post, you can see they're not walking back anything at all. The comment is alluding to the section I quoted up at the very beginning, that Discord will implement an age-inference feature. They are, of course, not going to list the specifics of what the criteria is for this but it might be more accessible than you might expect. So for as awful as this all is, I appreciate that Discord is doing what it can to find avenues to verify users' identities without acquiring sensitive information. Time will tell of course.

Oh they also added an addendum to their announcement about this
https://discord.com/press-releases/discord-launches-teen-by-default-settings-globally#age-assurance-clarification

And because I'm sure someone will bring it up, yes, I know about the data breach with Discord. Except, that statement is inaccurate, the data breach was on Zendesk.
https://discord.com/press-releases/update-on-security-incident-involving-third-party-customer-service
https://www.malwarebytes.com/blog/news/2025/10/discord-warns-users-after-data-stolen-in-third-party-breach
https://www.bitdefender.com/en-us/blog/hotforsecurity/discord-users-data-stolen-by-hackers-in-third-party-data-breach

If you actually bothered reading any of the articles about it, you would have known that for yourself. This is a very important distinction, because this means the fault and vulnerability lies with Zendesk, a helpdesk service that hundreds of companies use.

Now, just to be clear, this isn't to shill for Discord. This is about having concise and accurate information for making informed choices. Knowing that the breach with Zendesk, and not Discord servers, is important because it means you need to be cautious of Every Single Instance of Zendesk you interact with. If you jump ship from Discord just to go to another service that also uses Zendesk, you are not any safer than you were before.

So sure, cancel your subscriptions, jump ship, convince yourself that'll save you. But if you do not fight the law itself at the source, it will come for every service you retreat to. We should not resign ourselves to 'only' avoiding the problem. If all you do is cancel monetary support and jump ship, and do absolutely nothing to aid the protest on a legal level, then nothing will be solved and you will run out of hiding spots to retreat to. We desperately need to work on establishing foundations of privacy, together.

That all aside, I believe fostering alternatives to major is vital for a healthy internet, no matter how 'good' the major service is. (I love and Adore dreamwidth, but I still mirror to InsaneJournal.)In that vein, I found this article to be very useful
https://taggart-tech.com/discord-alternatives/
And this thread
https://rpanons.dreamwidth.org/100974.html?thread=288623470#cmt288623470
Be warned, many of these alternatives are lacking major features like Threads (vital for massive RP servers, also I just like them), and some of them don't permit explicit content. There are a lot of self-hosted ones but you have to know HOW to self-host them and have the money for it. You could open yourself up to a lot of vulnerabilities if you don't in which case none of the privacy forward structure will even matter if it's compromised.

I still long for the day the https://ircv3.net/ project finally has all its features implemented and all clients can support them.

Slightly related, I'm always on Trillian. It excels as a DM IM service, but I have always greatly prefer DMs over group chats.

Just, please. Pay attention to your rights, to the changes around you; read all articles in full, and seek context, always.

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